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Safety First

by Various

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WARNING - Do not attempt to use these techniques without adequate back-up, anyone who attempts to use the techniques, ideas or suggestions shown here in may result in injury or death.
If you're unsure about it - then don't do it!
Safety First
A guide on how to bind yourself and survive

Warning! - Self Bondage can be a dangerous practise and could result in serious injury or death, under no circumstances should you attempt to copy or emulate the scenes shown on this website, the stories and images are presented as fantasy only or are being used by experienced players with full regard to their own safety.


Safety First, Last & Always

Any form of bondage, whether self-tied or tied by another is a physical activity that can cause stress to areas of the body, which may not be used to having these stresses applied. This not only includes the limbs and external body but also the internal organs, putting too much stress on an organ such as the heart can be fatal or cause serious injury. We are not medically qualified, and you should seek medical or specialist advice before doing anything you aren't sure about. As the ads say consult your doctor if you have any existing condition.

Like any activity in life it's wise to take things slowly and experiment, take small steps and make sure that your comfortable before moving on. Make sure that your release works and that you are able to breathe without any problems. Breathing can be restricted by the position your body is placed in and more can be found by reading about Positional Asphyxia

It is your responsibility to be safe when you play.


Safe: Make safety your first and over-riding priority. Don't do anything until you are reasonably sure you know how to do it safely and know how to escape and have a second means of getting free on hand in case something does go wrong. Try small steps first, eg: tie the rope around your ankles only and leave your hands free, see how long it takes to either cut or untie the rope. Don't jump straight in with a rope hog-tie and then find you cannot get free!

Just keep to the simple stuff and practise before moving on to doing more complicated rope bondage, buy a set (or two) of safety scissors and keep them on hand, just in case you need to cut the ropes and get free. Using a knife can be very hazardous especially when your hands are tied behind your back and great care must be taken when using one to cut the ropes.

If you're using handcuffs, even the cheap fluffy ones, make sure you have the keys (and that they actually fit) before locking them on someone. Also again this comes with experience make sure that you can fit the keys in the lock with your hands bound, many have found themselves locked in handcuffs and unable to get free because the hole for the key is unreachable because the hole in on the wrong side of the cuffs.

Sane: Know your own limits, start gradually and get experience before attempting more challenging things. Everyone is different - don't assume that because other people can be tied with their elbows touching behind their back that you can too. Some people can, some people can't - and you could cause injury trying to force it. 

Sober: If you have had a drink or are using drugs - Just Don’t Do It !

Risks of Self Bondage

Self-bondage is considered a higher-risk activity than many other BDSM practices — particularly when combined with autoerotic asphyxia — and has led to many recorded deaths. The death in 1994 of Stephen Milligan, the British Conservative MP for Eastleigh, was a case of autoerotic asphyxiation combined with self-bondage, and rumors persist that it was also the cause of death of rock singer Michael Hutchence and actor David Carradine.

Self-bondage has all the risks of physical restraint and sexual bondage, with the added factor that should anything go wrong, there is no-one to effect a rescue. For example, if blood circulation cuts off sensation in limbs, the planned escape mechanism may not be usable.

Despite this, many practitioners insist that self-bondage can be performed relatively safely if it is conducted with a view to minimizing risk. Common safety advice includes measures such as:

  • Use of sensual rather than strict self-bondage (see below) Avoiding anything that might restrict breathing, such as restraints on the chest or neck, or gags
  • Using multiple release mechanisms as a backup in case one fails
  • Ensuring that assistance can be called for if needed, or arranging for someone to check at a specified time
  • Avoiding anything that can cause limbs to go numb or cut off circulation, such as metal handcuffs or overly tight ropes. If possible, wait enough time to see if ropes cut off circulation before activating lock mechanism.
  • Building up the complexity of the bondage slowly over several sessions, and only adding elements one at a time
  • Abstaining from substances that might impair judgment, such as alcohol
  • Before engaging in self-bondage, make certain that anything which can cause a fire or a choking hazard, say a gas stove, are not in play.
  • Spending only small amounts of time per bondage session. Some people enjoy overnight bondage, and this is the maximum one should try alone.
  • Always tell yourself: "I'm in this to have fun, not kill myself".
Basic Safety

Not The Neck - Never, ever tie anything around your neck or across the front of your neck or in a way which can tighten or pull on the neck. This is extremely dangerous.

Consider what could happen if you fell, slipped or fainted. Could anything in the neck or shoulder area slip, or pull, or tighten? Even something as simple as a collar chained to a fixed point could be lethal if you were to faint and fall. Make sure it couldn't catch or pull and make sure that any fastening rope or chain is PLENTY long enough that if you fall to the floor and still have no tension on the neck area. 

The same applies when using hoods, whether made from latex or leather, make sure that the holes that you require to breathe through won't move during your session. Sweat builds up inside the hood and helps lubricate the inside of the hood, creating less friction the hood could move with your thrashing around in the through's of your session.

Avoid Pressure Points - Avoid areas where nerves and veins run close to the skin surface. Tie above and below joints rather than on the joint. Tie wrists facing together rather than facing apart (so the rope doesn't press directly on the veins on the inside of the wrist). Avoid the inner biceps, elbow, inner thighs and backs of the knees. That numbing sensation you feel is your bodies way of telling you that blood flow has slowed or stopped, try getting yourself free when you cannot use your hands when they are numb. I doubt that you can and it can get much worse!

Start Simple - Don't launch straight into a complicated rope suspension. Learn to tie basic stuff first. Suspensions bring a whole raft of new safety issues, and you shouldn't try them until you can tie the simple stuff safely first.

Tie Off Knots - Learn to tie the basic bondage knots which prevents the rope slipping or tightening. Make sure you know how to tie and untie the knots you use, don't vary the knot or add to it at the last moment, this is where mistakes are made and you'll have to cut yourself free.

Not too tight - A very common mistake is to tie the ropes too tight. The "one finger" test is a good start, make sure you can slip a finger under the rope. If tied correctly with ropes in the right places this will still be just as effective and you will be able to hold it for longer and in much greater safety.

Falling Over - The most common cause of accident or injury in self bondage is falling over, whether from the bed to the floor or whilst moving from one area to another or just when tying yourself up and a loss of balance. Trip hazards can be more so when your ankles are tied together, when outside watch for branches and rocks. Take precautions like somewhere soft to land (mattress on the floor), or just start off on the floor. 

Staying In Too Long - Some positions are inherently stressful. If you tied your elbows together behind the back, you WILL lose feeling in your hands. It is just a question of whether it takes 30 seconds or 30 minutes. Ropes that are tied too tight or tighten during your session will result in the same loss of feeling, and may cause more permanent injuries.

Losing feeling is not immediately dangerous, but it could be a sign of losing circulation or pressure on nerves which can cause lasting injury. Numbness can mean you don't feel ropes cutting in and doing yet more damage. So don't leave it too long. If you are turning blue or start to get a numb feeling in your limbs or fingers or have got pins and needles start getting out now, while you still can !

Backups - don't just stop at one, things do go wrong, so have a few lined up. NEVER NEVER NEVER go into anything where you don't have at least two backup methods lined up for a sure-fire release. Remember, if you're on your own, and things do go wrong you only have your backups to save you. Don't be stupid, pay attention and use your backups.

Gags - These can be extremely dangerous and also enticing, you've seen the pictures, they look great. But try wearing one for any length of time, worse still get stuck with one in bondage, so try using one on it's own to test how it feels. Make sure that you can breathe through or around the gag, and that it doesn't cut into the skin. A ball gag will almost completely block anything coming out your mouth, this could be deadly if you're feeling sick and wanted to vomit.

Blindfolds - Using one you won't be able to see to release yourself, don't rely on getting if off your head by dragging or any other means than unfastening the buckles or strings. I strongly suggest that you don't use one in self bondage without plenty of practice.

Collars - See above about having items around the neck area, anything that tightens around the neck could restrict your breathing and may lead to fainting or suffocation. Again I strongly suggest you don't use one in self bondage without plenty of experience or playing with another.

Handcuffs - These are covered by their own page here, but basic common sense is to make sure that you can access the key holes, the cuffs are around the right way and are not cutting off your circulation.

Be realistic - being completely immobile for an entire weekend might sound like fun, but remember you're human, you need food, toilet, washing, and cramp is never good, keep it to a few hours, or overnight at the most.

Rope Burn and Whipping Ends - Be careful not to run rope too fast over skin - you can cause rope burn. And be careful not to poke your self in the eye as the end of a rope gets whipped around. These problems are more likely when untying than when tying up, so be extra careful of them then.

What would you do if you need to escape in an emergency ?

  • You should always plan before you start to tie yourself up, think of the 'what ifs' and plan what you could do if they happen.
  • You should always use a dependable second means of escape - this could be a second person, or have another release method like a second set of keys or scissors.
  • Always bear in mind what might happen if the place were to catch fire. Use a smoke detector and never use candles.
  • Consider having a phone pre-programmed with the telephone numbers of friends and relatives within reach as well.
Types of Self Bondage

Sensual self-bondage - In sensual self-bondage, escape from restraints is simple and available immediately, if desired. For example, the keys might be within reach or the knots loosely tied. The chief aim is the sensation of immobility and of constrained movement.

Strict self-bondage - Strict self-bondage requires that the means of escape be unavailable until the lapse of time before the release mechanism activates itself. This feature of strict self-bondage makes it potentially more hazardous, but some practice it for the greater sense of helplessness it creates.

A compromise position between safety and strictness allows for a backup release mechanism that is available immediately, but carries with it some penalty or cost with its use. For example, keys could be placed in a bucket of paint. The person in self-bondage can escape quickly if necessary, such as a fire breaking out, or excessive numbness of limbs. However, the annoyance of cleaning up the paint afterwards would coerce the person into waiting for the main release mechanism to come into effect if they were merely bored or uncomfortable. Another penalty may be the need to contact somebody, with the penalty being having to explain what has happened.


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