Um. I'm female and was a self-bondage enthusiast in my youth. I haven't done too much in the way of self-bondage since I've been old enough to have partners. :)

Sincerely,

Laria

Me too.

In fact, Philip's mention of youthful water play (in the 16 yr. old thread) brought up fond memories of bathroom play from my early teen years. The bathroom was the only place I could be for an extended period of time without my parents wondering what the heck was going on.

"I was just *really* dirty, mom." Well, sort of. ::grin::

*pickmepickmepickme*

There most certianly are avid female self bondage type people as this thread has indicated. I was/am one of them.

Little Red-Haired Girl said:

felicity wrote: : Me too.

: "I was just *really* dirty, mom." Well, sort of. ::grin::

*grin*

I remember there was a time in my life when I couldn't sleep properly at night unless I bound my feet together. Some sort of security blanket thing I guess.

I've done such incredibly stupid things too. I look back, and I wonder where on earth my common sense went. I suppose that sometimes sexual release can be more important than anything, especially if there is no one you can talk to about this. I wasn't ashamed of my sexuality, but I wasn't flaunting it either. In my world, sex is a private thing that I only talk about with my partners (and 250 000 of my closest newsgroup friends !!! ), so if you don't have a partner, you don't tell anyone about it. *shrug*

I used to bind my ankles together, first around the both of them, and then between them, making a sort of cloth handcuff. I'd then have a length of rope/sock/cloth that would attach to a set of toy handcuffs, the ones that come with stupid pick fluffy protectors (which of course I removed). I'd blindfold and gag myself, insert whatever stimulation was needed, and put my hands behind my back and lock myself in. When I wanted to release myself, I would reach around to the quick release switch on the handcuffs, and presto - I'd be out.

As I got more confident and comfortable about doing this, I increased the strigency of my bondage. I'd add a home made lockable collar, and attach another rope/length of cloth to the bond ankles and secure them to the end of the bed. After a time, I'd also start attaching the collar to the head of the bed, the length of rope would get progressively shorter as I experimented more with breath err... restriction. *hothothothothot*. I never once had a safety backup and, with the exception of the handcuffs, all the material I used to bind myself was stuff you would find around the house anyway.

I only had a scary experience once, when the safety release on the handcuffs stuck, and I started to panic. Writhing around not being able to breathe didn't help the situation much. *sigh* But it didn't stop me. My risk/benefit analysis always came down in favour of me doing it. Until I got a partner, and my now fiance made me promise I would never do anything stupid like that again.

Every now and again I just want to tie myself up, when I'm alone, because then I can relax and enjoy it rather than be concerned about who else I'm pleasing. I find it peaceful.

But had I had SSB or *anyone* as a resource, I don't think I would have gone as far as I did. I would have had enough information to change the risk/benefit analysis. I probably still would have done the self bondage, but taken more precautions.

Nicole.

In addition to solo self-bondage, I also enjoy tying myself up for the enjoyment of my partner, or having them place themselves in self-bondage while I watch and perhaps provide some assistance with those last hard-to-reach knots.

Sometimes when I do self-bondage I fantasize about being my own captive. My pro-domme friend Margaret likes to interrogate her clients about their sex lives. Professional interest. (She claims.) She says this type of fantasy self-bondage "switching" is very common.

I know we had a discussion of "switching camera angle" a while back in partner play. Anybody else enjoy this sort of solo mental gymnastics?

Your Humble Jester,

You're very welcome. I'm happy to be one of several to help you discover a new kink. :)

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Absolutely! I still use the "captive being interrogated/tortured" fantasy for solo play whether it is self-bondage or self-inflicted SM. Hrm... now that I've started working out again, maybe if I kept that mindset while exercising, the workout wouldn't be so awful.

Sincerely,

Laria

In order for it to turn me on, it has to be realistic. I have to believe that I can't get out of the bondage, and there has to be some "logical" reason why I am there. The fantasy of nonconsenuality is really *hot*. Just being tied up (even with stimulation) doesn't do anything for me. So, there has to be some sort of scenario as to how I ended up on my bed tied up in knots.

I often fantasize that there is a male tormenter and I switch to that role breifly to convince myself that it is *likely*. I don't play the role for long. Just long enough to say "here is the likely scenario up until this point", and then I can get down to the business of being the helpless victim. I don't switch back and forth though, so I'm not sure if this is what you're asking about?

Sometimes I wonder if I were to actually be kidnapped and err... persecuted in the manner I fantazise about, whether I would actually enjoy it. *shrug* Probably. Fear is a big turn on for me.

Nicole.

As to having it tight, you dont always have to have that partner handy, though for some things it helps, esp when things dont go as planned....when it is difficult to get myself out though, it does become part of the fantasy about not being able to escape on my own. In a weird way it can be fun to be kept in tight bondage longer than you'd really like to be there...guess I like to test my limits, but not an experience for everyone. Though I have always been able to get myself free, getting the hook to catch the zipper of an armbinder when you're the one wearing it can be HARD (garbage twisty ties really help when getting yourself IN ;) since with putting your weight into it, they break away)

Kidnapping is a popular fantasy in many ways (though I dont think i'd like it if it actually happened), another would be that I am just helping a friend test gear he wants to use on another, but likes on me so much he decides to keep me in bondage.

Foole: What a clever idea! That's the most original self-bondage trick I've seen in a long time. What do you use for a "fail-safe" in case the zipper jams or you are unable to connect to the hook?

Your Humble Jester,